I’m from a family of illegal immigrants. That’s very
different from people whose parents were middle class or upper-middle
class, South Asian or
In your
novel, you weave the personal with the political through your treatment
of masculinity, drawing a clear line from
I was obsessed
with this idea that all these folks were dealing with this grand narrative
of this
Look, everyone sits around and pretends that we’re all in this
new age of masculinity and this new age of sensitivity and that the
kids don’t play football anymore, they play video games, they watch
the “X Games.”
The truth is that if
Oscar’s interests mark him as a classic nerd,
and for this reason he’s tremendously anxious about his masculinity,
which the macho Yunior, the narrator, represents. But doesn’t Yunior
learn a new model of masculinity through his relationship with Oscar?
And
from telling the story. Yunior is attempting to unlearn and expiate
himself, repent in some way, do penance. But, unfortunately, he’s
doing it in exactly the same way that the masculinity he’s trying
to undermine has always perpetuated itself, by being the only voice
speaking.
Yunior keeps giving clear messages, that in some ways, “Look,
guys, I’m trying to lay out a map of how fucked up I am and how fucked
up this is.” But the very map is a product of that power, and so is
the reader’s desire for that authoritative narrative. People want
to feel like the person telling them the story has facts.
I was particularly
moved by the last page, where Oscar talks about the paramount importance
of intimacy. He’s been in search of sex, but he discovers intimacy.
How did you come to that idea?
I guess I knew it from the beginning.
It’s basically what’s true about every quest narrative. What you discover
is that the object of the quest is just a MacGuffin, and that what
you learn in the journey is actually what was valuable, but you didn’t
know it. You were so focused on getting the ring, getting the spear,
killing this creature, that you don’t realize that there was something
else.
Isn’t there a political dimension to your emphasis on the importance
of intimacy? The hyper-sexuality and violent masculinity we see in
The first rule of intimacy
is that you have to drop your performances, that the “masks” have
to drop.
This book is filled with characters wearing masks. We’re
narrative animals, we love to wear masks, that’s the way we live.
We perform. But yet, it’s very difficult to connect without the dropping
of masks.
For me, that’s the art of stories. Stories are there so
you can get to the point where you can finally take off that last
mask. That’s what growing up is, because when you take your last mask
off, you are utterly vulnerable, you are utterly in another person’s
power.
And what contemporary masculinity, what contemporary power
structure, ever puts itself utterly in someone else’s power? Isn’t
storytelling the desire to put everything about the world in your
power?